Is adultery for you?

I am occasionally asked why I run this site, and as Adulterer in Chief I feel it’s incumbent on me to give you an honest answer.

My own story is simple and will unfold here as and when time allows, so check back for updates. Through my own story, I hope you can learn from my mistakes, benefit from my experience and generally decide whether adultery is something you can or should contemplate, or whether some other course would be preferable.


My now ex wife and I married far too young in the late early 1960’s. Unusually (even for then), we were both virgins at the time we wed, and it soon became apparent that both physically and emotionally, we were not compatible; her interest in sex was almost zero, or perhaps more charitably, we just didn’t FIT in a way that gave her pleasure.

As a consequence, even on our 14 day honeymoon, we cuddled a lot, but only had sex 3 times.

But, in so many arguably more important ways, we were totally compatible, and had sworn vows. Also, at that time divorce was quite rare and ruinously expensive.

We bought a house and spent five years doing it up at evenings and weekends.

Towards the end of that time, my wife became pregnant with our first child, so we started looking for a bigger house and/or a better job to support us both as it was then common for women to stop work when they had children (writing this it sounds like the 1800’s)

New baby, new job, new home all took a toll on what should have been our happiest time together.

18 months on, disaster struck as I was made redundant from the new job in one of the economies regular downturns.

That area was particularly affected and jobs were non existent and our new home was now worth less than we paid for it.

I had already been doing some weekend work to make ends meet, and with no proper jobs in the area I made my weekend job full time and more, but still only just about managed to pay the mortgage.

Once again, with the hours I was working and a new baby, all I was interested in was sleep, so the no sex thing faded into the background


Alabama evangelist Acton Bowen jailed in Hoover on child sex charges

Acton Bowen was arrested in Hoover on April 10, 2018.

A well-known Alabama evangelist, public speaker and author was arrested in Hoover Tuesday on child sex charges.

Paul Edward Acton Bowen, a 37-year-old Gadsden native who now lives in Etowah County’s Southside community, was taken into custody by Hoover police about 12:35 p.m. The founder of Acton Bowen Outreach Ministries is charged with second-degree sodomy, enticing a child to enter a vehicle or house for immoral purposes, and second-degree sex abuse. The victim was a young male, but police did not release his age except to say he is over 12 and under 16.

Hoover police Capt. Gregg Rector said the department’s Special Victim’s Unit first launched an investigation three weeks ago. The Jefferson County District Attorney’s Office issued the warrants on Monday.

“This is certainly one of the more disturbing cases that we’ve investigated in quite some time,” Rector said. “Mr. Bowen is in a highly-respected position of influence and he is trusted by many. We believe he betrayed that trust in the worst kind of way.”

Bowen was taken into custody in Pelham and transported to the Hoover City Jail. He was moved to the Jefferson County Jail where he was released early Wednesday on $90,300 bond.

Rector said the victim in this case is an underage family acquaintance, “He is currently doing well and has been in a safe environment since police were first notified,” Rector said.

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Worth Fighting For

No one said relationships were easy ― even the strongest couples will inevitably hit a few bumps in the road. But your partner shouldn’t be a constant source of stress, hurt feelings or resentment.

So how do you know if your relationship has hit the point of no return? Automatic dealbreakers like abusive behavior aside, many issues can be worked through with time, commitment and help from a therapist.

But if you’ve tried and tried and things still don’t improve, or if your partner is simply unwilling to do the work, it could be time to move on.

We asked experts to share the signs that a relationship may no longer be worth fighting for. (Note that the advice below is meant to serve as general suggestions. The circumstances of each relationship are different; there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.)

From Huffington post

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