Category Archives: Relationships

The top careers for infidelity for both men and women

From the independent

People cheat on their partners for different reasons. There are also varying levels of cheating, from microcheating to full-blown affairs.

Some evidence even suggests that intelligent people are more likely to want to cheat on their partners.

New survey data from Ashley Madison, the leading dating website that helps married people have affairs, has shown people with certain careers are more likely to be unfaithful to their partners. They asked 1,074 members of Ashley Madison to fill out a survey about their jobs.

Despite straying from their partners, respondents of the survey had a different attitude towards their careers. Nearly half (44%) said they never switch jobs, and those who did said they only did it once every 10 years.

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Let’s face it, leaving aside drunken fumbles at the staff party, men (and women) having affairs do so because there is something seriously wrong in their marriage.

Very often, this is a sexual mismatch, but sometimes it’s just the old “doesn’t understand me” routine – and being a normal excuse doesn’t mean its untrue. If 95% of a married relationship is working well, all that’s needed is a way to fiil that missing 5%.

A “traditional” affair involves enormous amounts of deception, pressure and time management, and if it continues can become a commitment that leads to pressure to break the marriage up.

By contrast, a Sugar Daddy type arrangement can have all the thrills and benefits of an affair, but because it is a more commercial arrangement, firstly removes the commitment issue, and secondly is, almost by definition, time limited, as most Sugar Babies are waiting for their careers to progress, and are bridging their finances in between times.

Some Suga Daddy sites got an(in my view)  undeserved bad reputation because of the number of college kids using them to stay afloat financially

Given the alternative is the ever growing number of porn star students, it’s difficut to see how a discreet arrangement with one guy is so bad compared to a the baggage a lifetime of online porn videos could create.

Any views or experience to contribute??

Is adultery for you?

I am occasionally asked why I run this site, and as Adulterer in Chief I feel it’s incumbent on me to give you an honest answer.

My own story is simple and will unfold here as and when time allows, so check back for updates. Through my own story, I hope you can learn from my mistakes, benefit from my experience and generally decide whether adultery is something you can or should contemplate, or whether some other course would be preferable.


My now ex wife and I married far too young in the late early 1960’s. Unusually (even for then), we were both virgins at the time we wed, and it soon became apparent that both physically and emotionally, we were not compatible; her interest in sex was almost zero, or perhaps more charitably, we just didn’t FIT in a way that gave her pleasure.

As a consequence, even on our 14 day honeymoon, we cuddled a lot, but only had sex 3 times.

But, in so many arguably more important ways, we were totally compatible, and had sworn vows. Also, at that time divorce was quite rare and ruinously expensive.

We bought a house and spent five years doing it up at evenings and weekends.

Towards the end of that time, my wife became pregnant with our first child, so we started looking for a bigger house and/or a better job to support us both as it was then common for women to stop work when they had children (writing this it sounds like the 1800’s)

New baby, new job, new home all took a toll on what should have been our happiest time together.

18 months on, disaster struck as I was made redundant from the new job in one of the economies regular downturns.

That area was particularly affected and jobs were non existent and our new home was now worth less than we paid for it.

I had already been doing some weekend work to make ends meet, and with no proper jobs in the area I made my weekend job full time and more, but still only just about managed to pay the mortgage.

Once again, with the hours I was working and a new baby, all I was interested in was sleep, so the no sex thing faded into the background


9 Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Worth Fighting For

No one said relationships were easy ― even the strongest couples will inevitably hit a few bumps in the road. But your partner shouldn’t be a constant source of stress, hurt feelings or resentment.

So how do you know if your relationship has hit the point of no return? Automatic dealbreakers like abusive behavior aside, many issues can be worked through with time, commitment and help from a therapist.

But if you’ve tried and tried and things still don’t improve, or if your partner is simply unwilling to do the work, it could be time to move on.

We asked experts to share the signs that a relationship may no longer be worth fighting for. (Note that the advice below is meant to serve as general suggestions. The circumstances of each relationship are different; there’s no one-size-fits-all approach.)

From Huffington post